Here is what was discovered:
60% are on some sort of diet
50% are doing an “intense” workout program such as “Insanity” or PX90
100% are struggling with their confidence in some capacity
This is heartbearting. For so many women, their confidence is directly related to the numbers on the scale. Elika admits that she has been guilty of letting her self-confidence be determined by the scale at times too.
So why do we put such a big emphasis on our weight?
We are bombarded every day, every second of the day, by what “society” has determined to be sexy or beautiful. Ever magazine, T.V. show and gym has pre-determined what it looks like to be “fit” or ‘beautiful”. The modeling and fashion industry have determined that we should all be very tall, slender women, with little to no hips, and either small breasts or big implants. Now aren’t most designers gay men? And aren’t gay men attracted to other men? So, are they not trying to conform women into their idea of attractiveness? Which is not very feminine looking.
Four Tips to boosting your self-esteem
1) Find activities you enjoy or are good at and engage in those activities regularly.
2) Find your power color. For some it is red (it symbolizes courage, strength and power) for others it may be blue. Discover what color you feel good in and wear it.
3) Make a list of attributes you like about yourself that have nothing to do with your appearance. For example, “I am a good friend”, “I am reliable”, “I am a great cook”.
4) What would you be doing if you had higher self esteem? Do that NOW!!
BONUS TIP: Give to others. When Elika was in graduate school, she read a study about a group of students who failed a test. Naturally, they all felt bad about themselves after their grade. Half the group, volunteered to tutor others and give of their time. The other half didn’t. Guess what? The group the provided help to others rated higher on self confidence in a standardized measure.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
Give these a try and leave a comment with how it works for you-I would love to get your feedback. There is no “one size fits all” and there is no “one treatment for all”.